But I am going there anyway.
I’ve had this topic on my mind for a while now. It’s been covered ad nauseum, I understand. But I just can’t stop thinking about it so…..
That’s right. I said it.
Today my husband took me out for dinner. Afterwards, we needed to stop by the store. Out front, a lady holding petition clipboards with a hand drawn sign on her folding table that said “Protect Marriage”. As we walked up to the door, she said “Can I get your signature?” (or something like that, I don’t remember her exact words now). She wasn’t forceful….in fact, I don’t think she even wanted to be there. But she asked and I immediately said “No” and kept walking. I also muttered “Not for that” but I am sure she didn’t hear it.
Here is my problem….why? I don’t get the big deal. So Billy and John or Rebecca and Lily want to get married. I can see how people would think it controversial. Fine. And you believe in a marriage between a man and a woman? Awesome. Then you are most likely married to a person of the opposite sex. Amazing for you. But what does Billy and John wanting to get married have to do with your marriage or your life?
I’ve heard from people that gay marriage is unnatural, it is a sin, it weakens the definition of marriage, kids get confused on gender roles, etc.
All of this thinking got me on google. You can find anything on google.
In straight couples, 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce. To me, this doesn’t prove that people find marriage to be as sacred as some want us to believe.
The Bible is pretty outdated in what can and cannot be acceptable in society. This is just my opinion (and a million others’). I am sure you’ve all seen this letter to Dr. Laura and while there seems to be some mystery as to the author of this letter, it still makes some great points. I am 100% sure that the Bible shouldn’t be followed literally and instead use as more of a guideline for how to live a good and spiritual life.
Maggie Gallagher, a huge face in the anti-gay marriage campaign, has said “My concern is that marriage really matters because children need a mom and a dad, and after gay marriage, I can’t say that anymore.” Why? I would think that the main concern for children (born to you, adopted, whatever) would be to have two parents who love you, who support you and who can financially and emotionally protect you.
Thinking about gender roles….if my husband does most of the housework and I do all of the yard work, will my children be confused? Because that is the case in my house. I would rather play outside, cut the grass, deal with the yard then do dishes or laundry.
I know I am stirring the pot here. I am completely aware that for every one person who believes that gay marriage is nothing but good…there are 5 people who are against it. I know all of this and I know that my words will anger people too. I HOPE that we can all be adults and share open and honest opinions without name calling or being nasty (luckily, since this is my blog, I get to moderate those comments and delete the ones I feel don’t add to any conversation). I have plenty of friends and family who do not believe in gay marriage and I still love them and they still love me.
I’ll leave you with this thought. Interracial marriages were illegal until 1967 when it became legal in all states. Had the Supreme Court not made that decision, this awesome family would never had existed:
And that,, my friends, would have been a tragedy indeed.
Until next time……….